Ponderings – Pleasing Everyone

There can be no more futile of an activity to engage oneself in than the fruitless attempt of pleasing everyone. By now it should be abundantly clear that such a goal is a dispiriting and empty one, one which will only ever leave you empty-handed and disappointed. Far better to stay true to yourself at the risk of upsetting a few than to fall in line and watch your tongue as merely another face in the crowd.  


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Ponderings – Life’s a Marathon

Do you ever think about how often we ever stop and think? I swear, sometimes it feels like my brain’s sprinting towards a finish line that it’ll never reach. When did everything become so stressful, when did our schedules suddenly fill up and leave us with no time for the things we actually enjoy? 

We’re busy, I get it. But remember, like any journey, life’s a marathon, not a sprint. You wouldn’t want to sprint ahead the first minute then burn yourself out, right? So just like in a marathon, it’s OK to slow down, take a break. 

I’ll drive my point home with this: the best time to make time for yourself is when you have none. 


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Ponderings – “Winds of Change”

What seems to happen so often (to me at least) is that whenever a change is suddenly desired- a change in health, relationships, perspective- everything feels… different. Like there’s an aura of ambition and drive, of revolution and invigoration which uplifts us and consequently the world around us. “The Winds of Change” as I like to call it (yes, I’m aware that I’m not the first to coin the phrase).

These winds are great, a welcome sign that change is in the air. But sometimes they blow a little too hard. Ok, I get it. I asked for change, now you’re giving it to me. But not at a hundred miles an hour from every different direction! Change is supposed to be a gradual process, not a sudden, raging tornado! One step at a time please.  


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Ponderings – “You Can’t”

To anyone with a goal or a dream, with a clear vision of what they want their life to look like in the future, I’ve got a piece of advice for you that I only recently learned myself: tell someone. Tell your mom, your dad, your siblings, your friends. Tell the whole world.

Then, listen to what they have to say. Your dream’s a big one (of course it is- whoever dreamt small?) so you’ll most likely be met with some opposition. Some naysayers. People will walk right up to you and tell you to your face that you can’t do it.

And to those people I can only give a smile. For every time I’m told that I can’t do something, it reassures me that I can. Every discouragement thrown my way is only used as fuel for the fire within me that cannot be contained.

Ponderings – Sailing In A Circle

Look, I’m all for being passionate, for working hard, being ambitious. But I’m also a big believer in having a plan. Having a dream is one thing. Knowing exactly what you want, and how you’re going to get it- that is how success is attained. 

You can have as much wind behind your sails as you want, but if you don’t bring a compass, you’ll be sailing in a circle on open waters your whole life with no land in sight. 

Ponderings – Seemingly Humble

In our heads, talking down our accomplishments and refusing to give light to our talents in order to make those around us feel better about themselves seems a noble and humble act, when in reality is one of the greatest disservices to mankind we can do. Keeping our gifts hidden in the shadows does nothing to help illuminate the world.

Ponderings – Cycles

If we were to hold a moment and reflect on our past mistakes and the lessons learned from making them, we would wield  the power to see the error of our ways. Our undesirable habits are just that: habits, vicious cycles which can be broken, but only once we understand what holds them together. 

Ponderings – Stones

I feel that oftentimes, before we criticize someone, we must first take care to check that we have no mistakes that need correcting, that we are flawless. Once we do so, we will all drop the stones we were about to throw, and perhaps, attempt to understand the accused instead.

And realize that we were never deserving of the stones in the first place.

 

Ponderings – Stagnation

Stagnation seems to be one of the worst conditions one can impose on themself. When one ceases to challenge themself, to push themself, to broaden their horizons, one consequently ceases to learn, to grow, to live. For a life not in motion is quite possibly the very definition of a meaningless existence.

Ponderings

The driving force that can move mountains, build up civilizations, make dreams a reality, send men to be among the stars, the force that keeps the world turning. An end goal we all have in common, yet one that seems to fall short in being fulfilled. Money? Power? Fame?

The desire to be important. The greatest motivator known to man.