Ponderings – “Winds of Change”

What seems to happen so often (to me at least) is that whenever a change is suddenly desired- a change in health, relationships, perspective- everything feels… different. Like there’s an aura of ambition and drive, of revolution and invigoration which uplifts us and consequently the world around us. “The Winds of Change” as I like to call it (yes, I’m aware that I’m not the first to coin the phrase).

These winds are great, a welcome sign that change is in the air. But sometimes they blow a little too hard. Ok, I get it. I asked for change, now you’re giving it to me. But not at a hundred miles an hour from every different direction! Change is supposed to be a gradual process, not a sudden, raging tornado! One step at a time please.  

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Ponderings – Concern

It is natural to be concerned about others’ opinions, to wonder of our image in others’ eyes. But once this concern begins to govern our thoughts, our actions, our lives, we need remind ourselves to turn the concern inward. Let others’ thoughts be their own, let them think and say what they want. At the end of each day, the only person’s thoughts that we have control over is our own.

How to learn from every “bad” situation

I’ve always thought that the comparison of life to a roller coaster was a strange one. Roller coasters have their ups and downs, just like life does, sure. But unlike the downs in life, the downs on roller coasters are the highlight of the ride. It’s what we anticipate the whole way up; we can’t wait for the exhilarating drop, to let our arms fly up and scream at the top of our lungs. We don’t exactly react the same way to the downs in life though. But just because they’re unpleasant, they don’t have to be all negative. In fact, they can be quite positive.

We make mistakes and have bad things happen to us all the time. Let’s say you’re headed to work one morning and on your way, you get a flat tire. No big deal, you pull over to the side of the road, it takes a few minutes at the most, and you’re good to go. Except you’ve never changed a flat tire before. You know where the spare is, and the tools you need, but you don’t know what to do with them. You end up calling roadside assistance, which takes about an hour to get somebody to help you. By the time you’re back on the road, you’re an hour late and you’ve missed a pretty important meeting you were supposed to speak at.

That doesn’t seem positive at all, I know. The positive part is what you learn from it though. That night, you ask a parent, a friend, find a video online, find some way to figure out and teach yourself how to change a flat tire. Now you’ve just learned a valuable skill, so next time it happens you’ll know exactly what to do, and you won’t have to wait an hour for help.

I think that a big part of finding the lesson from every bad situation or mistake in your life is perspective. It’s about changing the way you look at situations like the one above. Instead of focusing on everything bad about something, try finding the good in it. Make an effort to ask yourself “What did I learn from this”?

Life has its ups, and it certainly has plenty of downs, but they can be just as enjoyable as the ups. Change your perspective, the way you look at problems and mistakes you make, and you’ll begin to find the lesson in each of them.

“Don’t waste a good mistake. Learn from it.” – Robert Kiyosaki


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