Self-confidence plays a big role in self-respect. If you’re not confident in yourself and what you believe in, how will you expect yourself and others to treat you with respect? Lucky for you, there are techniques you can work on to build up your confidence.
Stand Up Straight
It’s an order you’ve heard barked at you from your mom for years, but is actually a good piece of advice. Besides helping to avoid back problems in the future, good posture can help improve your confidence. Standing and sitting up straight helps you speak more clearly and loudly, and can show that you’re able to take charge of a situation if need be. Next time, listen to mom! Although we all don’t want to admit it, she’s usually right.
People who normally keep their heads down while walking or talking to others are typically seen as someone who’s lacking confidence. It shows an unwillingness to be attentive of what others are saying and to look them in the eye when they’re speaking. Keeping your head held high helps to boost confidence and, much like above, helps in talking to people, because you’re no longer speaking to the ground. Look up! There’s a whole world to see.
Look Them In The Eyes
An obvious tell that someone’s lacking in self-confidence is when they avoid eye contact with others. It can seem like a daunting task, but with enough practice, can start to show results in your level of self-confidence. Eye contact plays an important role in determining how much respect you have for yourself, and how much others will have for you. While you shouldn’t strive to stare at someone during a whole conversation, a little eye contact here and there will show the other person that you’re interested in what they have to say and want to hear more, which is a sign of respect both for them and yourself.
Speaking clearly and loudly enough so others can hear you is important in effective communication. You may have been told before that you speak to softly, or to fast, or that you mumble sometimes. Start making a conscious effort to try to speak louder, especially in louder social settings. Try to slow down so your words are clearly understood, instead of heard in a jumbling stutter. Speak up! You’ve got things to say, and you want people to hear them.
Among other techniques, these are four that I consider to play major roles in developing your level of self-confidence. Next time you’re in a conversation, whether with another person or in a group of people, remind yourself to put these into practice. You’ll start to see amazing results and feel a boost in confidence.
“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” – T. Harv Eker