A popular slogan we see and hear almost everyday, but how often do we ever actually apply it to our own lives? If you’re like me or any other human on this planet, you doubt yourself from time to time. You hesitate in certain situations, you over think things way too much when you know deep down that when you ask yourself “What’s the worst that could happen?,” the answer’s usually not as bad as you think. And that simple question can be a really powerful one, if we’re truly honest with ourselves.
For example, let’s use a common fear shared amongst most of us: rejection, and more specifically, the rejection that can come with dating. Whether you’re asking someone for their number or a first date, the chance of being flat-out rejected no matter how nice or charming you think you are is a scary chance, and one that can hold people back from getting to know that special someone.
Say you’re at the grocery store where you just so happened to check out with the same cashier for the third time now. You both have seemed to have your eye on each other every time you come in, and every time they ring you out you both have a great conversation, but never anything more. Each time you’re done you’d leave regretting that you didn’t take the next step and ask for a number.
Sure you thought about it on your way up to their line, but you always start to come up with your own assumptions. Assumptions like “I’m sure he/she is already seeing someone,” or “There’s no way he/she is into me, they’re probably just being polite.” Assumptions that you don’t even know are true or not. And that’s when you should ask yourself: “What’s the worst that could happen?”
You could ask for their number and they tell you that they’re sorry but that they’re seeing someone, or they might just tell you that they’re simply not interested. After that things might be fine, you two might just act like nothing happened and continue being friendly with each other. Or you might feel that things would be a bit awkward next time, so you decide to avoid their line for now on. That’s the worst that could happen.
Or, you could ask for their number and see their face light up, clearly glad you asked because maybe they wanted to all along but couldn’t build up the courage to either. You’d find out that they in fact aren’t seeing anyone, and that they are interested, and have been the whole time. That number you get leads to texting and phone calls, and eventually one asking the other for a date, and you two ending up spending the day together and having a great time.
I think that’s the best thing that could happen.
But if you don’t take that chance, you’ll never know. You’ll be stuck asking things like “What if?” and “What’s the worst that could happen?” until that chance disappears. In my opinion, knowing the certainty of a situation is far better than living with the regret of not doing anything about it in the first place. The next time you start to doubt yourself or start jumping to conclusions, take a deep breath, then just do it
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” – Mae West